Today LM was not feeling well. He woke up late with a stuffy nose and cough, and then took a morning nap, which is unusual for him. He also wanted to nurse. So I snuggled with him on the couch, my boob in his mouth, and watched the snow falling outside. This is nice, I thought, but I should really be doing some work. Then, as if a devil (or an angel?) appeared on my other shoulder, I thought, maybe I can just relax here with him and enjoy the moment. I don’t always have to be such a multitasking mom.
I’ve talked before about how I am trying to be more present in my life, and just enjoy the time I have with LM while he is still little. But I also have a lot I want/have to get done in my life, and I find it really hard to balance. My solution is multitasking. I:
– Write while he’s nursing/napping on me.
– Eat while I’m driving.
– Check Facebook or talk on the phone while I’m on the toilet (c’mon, you know you do it, too).
– Respond to emails and texts while singing songs with LM (yup, I can sing and type at the same time).
– Make lists in my head while I’m reading to him.
In general I believe that multitasking is a good thing. It helps us make better use of our time. Women seem to be a lot better at it than men – and I’m learning this may be out of necessity because traditionally women raise the babies. And babies are just a time-suck.
But that’s the thing – I don’t want to think of my son as a time-suck. I want to cherish these moments. But I can’t get out of multitasking mode. I can’t seem to just stop and turn my brain off.
Maybe the reason is that I’m type A, and can’t get used to having less mental stimulation than when I had a stress-inducing job. Maybe it’s because I’m trying to get too much done. But as LM grows and demands more of my attention, I literally can’t do anything else during the day besides take care of him. This video explains why.
So when I can, I sneak in multitasking. And when I’m not multitasking, I’m thinking about multitasking. Sometimes I wish I could hook a recording device, some kind of brain memo app, to my mind, so everything I think of would be written down for me. I could get lots more blogging done if it could go straight from my brain to the computer.
But wait – wouldn’t it be better to just slow down, to stop the multitasking insanity? To live life fully, to appreciate every moment and not feel that I’m not accomplishing enough if I’m not doing two or more things at once?
I think it would. But I’m addicted to multitasking. Help.
Are you addicted to multitasking, too? What can we do about it?